Novel Mom

When we are stressed, we all have our go-to stress reliever. Right?  Some are healthier than others. Lots of people smoke or drink ...as a way to relieve stress. Lots of people ignore, dwell or eat their feelings away, which usually causes more stress in the long run...not that I would know of course, but I've heard. :)  Some people even choose the healthy route and exercise, practice yoga or mindfulness.  Good for you.  I am in awe of you.  I want to be you! :)  I have some good, healthy stress relievers.  When life gets too much, I close the bathroom door, put on my go-to playlist and take a hot bath.  This is my luxury, my reliever, my quiet space and time.  I don't know what I would do if I couldn't do this.  Unfortunately, I have some unhealthy habits as well, for dealing with stress when it gets to be too much.  I drink a glass of wine sometimes when I should just go for a walk.  Oh well.  Could be worse.  One habit I have when stress ge

This is me, your friendly, neighborhood doormat ...all sensitive and kind and waiting for another hard kick. They say confession is good for the soul.  Here's a confession.  I have been a doormat all my life. The problem with being a doormat is that when you are down and out and you are reminded you are the doormat, it hits you harder than it might otherwise have. So yeah, most of the time I go with the flow. And most of the time, I know where I stand and have learned to live with it. Don't get confused. I don't encourage people to treat me the way they do. It's simply that I can't change it and have chosen to accept it and am not going to waste time and energy trying to change what I know I can't change.  That's a lesson I have learned with age.  I am nobody's first choice.  I am nobody's favorite relative.  I am nobody's best friend.  I am the person folks call if they need someone to t