Novel Mom

Wait for a man who calls you beautiful no matter what you look like Wait for a man who looks deeply into your eyes as though he's trying to remember every little detail Wait for a man for a man who kisses your forehead, the top of your head and pulls your hand close to his heart Wait for a man who makes you feel safe, warm, comfortable, treasured Wait for a man who holds you close, so close you forget everything you were worrying about before his arms were wrapped around you and he was holding you tightly against his chest who strokes your hair and face so slowly like he has nowhere else to be....forever whose eyes close gently when he's close to you because the feelings overwhelm Wait for a man who makes you smile and laugh until your smile muscles are sore and you wonder why you never smiled like this before who says he's thinking of you even five minutes after you were together who asks if you are home okay after you left him

Photo credits to D. Fuller Okay, so we all know the expression, you never know what you've got until it's gone.  That doesn't really apply to me.  I usually appreciate what I have, who I have in my life, and the blessings I have been given.  Usually.  I also know how easily the wonderful things in life can be taken in a heartbeat. I'm guessing we pretty much all do.  But, lately, I feel like you never know what you've got until it's found.    A while back, in a sad, weak moment, I reached out to a Facebook friend of mine, late one evening and asked him what men are really looking for in a woman.  His reply was telling and priceless and an omen.  He said, "I have no idea"  and in describing how he got involved with his current girlfriend, "I didn't know what I was looking for until she found me."  Okay, that's beautiful.  And I am so happy for him and his girlfriend.  Truly.  That wasn't necessarily the answer I was l

When we are stressed, we all have our go-to stress reliever. Right?  Some are healthier than others. Lots of people smoke or drink ...as a way to relieve stress. Lots of people ignore, dwell or eat their feelings away, which usually causes more stress in the long run...not that I would know of course, but I've heard. :)  Some people even choose the healthy route and exercise, practice yoga or mindfulness.  Good for you.  I am in awe of you.  I want to be you! :)  I have some good, healthy stress relievers.  When life gets too much, I close the bathroom door, put on my go-to playlist and take a hot bath.  This is my luxury, my reliever, my quiet space and time.  I don't know what I would do if I couldn't do this.  Unfortunately, I have some unhealthy habits as well, for dealing with stress when it gets to be too much.  I drink a glass of wine sometimes when I should just go for a walk.  Oh well.  Could be worse.  One habit I have when stress ge

This is me, your friendly, neighborhood doormat ...all sensitive and kind and waiting for another hard kick. They say confession is good for the soul.  Here's a confession.  I have been a doormat all my life. The problem with being a doormat is that when you are down and out and you are reminded you are the doormat, it hits you harder than it might otherwise have. So yeah, most of the time I go with the flow. And most of the time, I know where I stand and have learned to live with it. Don't get confused. I don't encourage people to treat me the way they do. It's simply that I can't change it and have chosen to accept it and am not going to waste time and energy trying to change what I know I can't change.  That's a lesson I have learned with age.  I am nobody's first choice.  I am nobody's favorite relative.  I am nobody's best friend.  I am the person folks call if they need someone to t